resent having aid tied to democracy and corruption when it is obvious
What is obvious to you, is not necessarily obvious to all. People see that three of the richest economies in the modern world (Japan, Korea, Taiwan) catapulted themselves from poverty to prosperity through a series of dictators, and parliaments where one party would hold a majority for 50+ years. Singapore is probably actually the poster child for this. These countries only started to really go through the motions with democracy once they had started to overtake Europe in per capita wealth.
Russia, meanwhile, due to having the same "poet" gene as their Polish brothers, went "full retard" with democracy in the 1990s and there is still left a bad taste in the mouth. The state was pillaged, and the people were left forlorn. The West that cheered us on enthusiastically, suddenly lost interest and began to focus on looting our family treasures. China observed what was happening to us, took careful notes, and is doing its utmost to avoid repeating them.
People see that democracies often produce things like Boris Johnson or some other person whose name doesn't seem to come to mind.
No, my friends. What makes democracies truly work is when people have money and thus have something to lose. This is why the task of development has priority over human rights, and the existence of prudent checks and barriers within government. When people have a house, a mortgage, a pension account - that's when they start to be shareholders of society.
China and Russia saw on their own skin what it means to wait for help from the West. They'll give you just enough aid so you don't go belly up and a nice pat on the head for being a good boy.