Can we just stop pretending that abortion is a thing men should have any say in?
Abortion is a thing society has a say in. Democratically, through the licensing process, we collectively decide what doctors are allowed to do and what they are not allowed to do. Pregnant women are free to do whatever they want.
"My child" is a misnomer. No, that child is not yours. It's ours and is managed on our behalf by the courts and child protection government departments. Temporarily, until it reaches the age of 18, it's leased at no charge to the custodial "parents" providing that they conform to the lease conditions. If they don't, the child is taken away from them - a real legal test of who owns the child.
We take full ownership of a child not later than when the process of giving birth to it is complete. At our discretion, we can do it earlier and extend full legal protection to that child while it is still inside the woman. That is why in most of Europe, this is done at the 12th week since conception - a totally arbitrary number. In Oklahoma, it will be from moment zero.
The argument "it's my body" is fallacious. Whatever the label, it's a composite of the woman's egg and the man's sperm, a fact that makes him co-owner and gives him a moral - if not legal - standing in the matter.
The fact that it is inside the woman's body is irrelevant. If that woman is murdered, we charge the offender with two counts of murder, not one. Again, at what point in the cycle it's two instead of one is arbitrary and decided by a democratic process.
BTW, JR is correct and you are wrong.