Funny to read opinions on what Poles should do from people who are not in Poland, or have not been in Poland for decades. You have no idea about what most Poles think because the only news you get is through Government controlled outlets. Your "sources" in Poland are old people out of touch with what the 50 and under people want in the country.
You are right about one thing though, respect for Russian's is zero, and has been zero for 30 years. No one trusts Russia or Russians. Aligning with the US and the EU is the only safe option. Poland for all its faults, and difficulties, is a nation that is on the rise. The spirit of the younger people in this country is one that wants growth and more freedoms. When PiS is gone, there will be a lot of change. Whether that happens in the next election or not is still questionable.
The Ukraine people here are very much different from Poles. Yes, they are closer to being Russian in mentality but that is only due to not being exposed to more western ways of doing things. That exposure is happening now. That education if you will, taking place in Poland of millions of Ukraine people will force change in Ukraine when many return. Most do want to return. Most do not want to stay because it is not their home, and the cost of living here is much higher for them. The Polish assistance is only allowing them so much, and there are not a whole lot being employed if they do not speak Polish and/or English.
As for Russia gaining respect in the middle east, that's great. Congratulations. I wonder if they will ever forget the Russian military actions there? I doubt it. I think you mistake respect for the middle east using Russia as a tool to obtain what they want, and then they will turn on Russia when it suits them. Just like they did the USA. Imagine what will happen if the US goes back to Iran and makes a nuclear deal? Not too much love for Russia after that I bet.
But all this talk bringing other countries into the Ukraine discussion shows the only real issue. Russia is desperately searching for "respect" or a "win" on the international stage. Russians are so desperate to be "something" that they will do anything to be acknowledged. They dont care if the world acknowledges them for being good or bad, just being something. Because Russia is really not worth acknowledging for anything else. They do nothing of substance to improve the world. So, the war will go on. Putin and Russia will continue to receive attention, and the west will continue to fight them with weapons to Ukraine and chocking off of resources. The west will win, it is just that simple.