They haven't been sucking on your teats. They have been quietly trying to build a free market and democracy and having some success in that.
You need to abandon this idea of yourself as a benevolent mother - Russia is run by hated tyrants and nobody wants to be dependent on them anymore.
The only sucking on teats that will occur now will be in the amateur **** films that will be your biggest export now that nobody wants your poisonous oil.
You could forget forever about strategic naval bases. Turkey and Romania control the black sea, Sweden and Finland and Poland will control the Baltic, and your rusty ships can be turned into casinos or maybe accommodation for migrants from the Syrian and African conflicts that you sponsor.
And of course the Ukraine wants to be on their merry way to the EU - they have seen the increase in living standards and freedom of the ex Soviet brothers, Lithuania, Latvia and Estonia.
All of that is Putin's fault, and widely the fault of Russian society. He has destroyed you as a world power, you are now at the same level as the Philippines or Argentina, just with much worse food and much worse weather.